Why Indirect Prompts Work for Kids with ADHD and Executive Functioning Challenges

As a parent of a child with executive functioning challenges and an SLP specializing in this area, I understand the struggles you face in promoting independence and decision-making skills. But what if I told you there's a powerful technique that can make a real difference? Let me share with you the magic of indirect prompts.

Does this scenario sound familiar? Your child knows what they need to do, but never seems to do it. The direct prompts you give them, like "Feed the dog" or "Brush your teeth," often lead to meltdowns and frustrations instead of getting the task done. You may feel like your relationship with your child is suffering. But trust me, indirect prompts, also known as declarative language, offer a new approach that can empower your child's growth and development.

By using indirect prompts, we can encourage our children to think independently and make choices (improving their executive functioning skills). Unlike direct prompts, indirect prompts don't demand an immediate response. Instead, they plant a seed in our child's minds, allowing them to take ownership of their actions and decisions. This approach can work wonders in boosting your child's confidence and sense of responsibility.

Here’s how you can incorporate indirect prompts into your daily routine:

1. "Your dog is hungry." By making this observation, you subtly encourage your child to take on the responsibility of caring for their pets.
2. "I wonder where you might find your toothbrush." This indirect prompt encourages your child to actively engage in problem-solving, helping them become more self-sufficient.
3. "Looks like your dirty clothes are on the floor." By pointing out this observation, you prompt your child to take the initiative and clean up their space.
4. "I can see this is making you feel upset." This indirect prompt invites your child to express their opinions and allows them to have a voice in decision-making.
5. "The door is open." With this prompt, you encourage your child to actively observe their surroundings and make choices based on their awareness.

By using indirect prompts, you invite your child to respond and share their thoughts and feelings. This approach nurtures their communication skills and helps them feel heard and understood.

Remember, parenting is a continuous journey of learning and adapting to our child's unique needs. We won't be perfect, and it's okay to slip up and use direct prompts. - I do. But as you start to use indirect prompts, you’ll see growth and strengthen your bond with your kiddo. 

So why not give indirect prompts a try? You might be surprised at how much smoother daily routines can become.